It is a given that you will have leftover feelings during a break-up. You will hang onto the good times and cherish them deeply. When a person moves on, are they actually moving on, or are they carrying some baggage? There are good reasons to remain friends with your ex-lover, and here are some of the many reasons why.
Your Ex Knows All of Your Flaws
When you encounter a break-up, no matter how good or bad it was, you will have some leftover memories that you cannot quite get rid of from your memory. Your ex will know everything about you. They might even know or pick up on things that you thought they might have not have picked up on as well.
You Just Need a Friend, A Friend With Benefits
You need a friend so badly, that you remain your exes friend just to have a special kind of relationship with them. You want to remain friends in order to have a no strings attached friend with benefits as they say! One must do what one must do to keep a friend.
The Intercourse Was Excellent in the Relationship
You may want to be friends with your ex because of a certain act that is done behind closed doors. You might have had a connection of sorts, and the term connection is putting it lightly, with your ex, and this is why you want to be friends with them. The thrill is not gone in a case like this.
You All Started Off As Friends and it Should Always Be That Way
You may have started off as friends with your mate. This friendship may have lead to you becoming lovers. This is very common, especially when you grew were friends before you became lovers. There are some strong feelings that you will definitely have with your partner in this situation.
Revenge is Best Served on a Cold Dish
Some people remain good with their ex because of ulterior motives. You cannot let go of the relationship and you want to get revenge someway and somehow. You pretend to be your exes friend, and then you get your revenge when the time is right. This is the worst reason why people remain friends with their ex.
Stay Friends With Your Ex and Wait for the Right Moment for Some Fun
You may hang on to your ex for some sexual encounter later on. This can be a bad thing because you may be planning to cheat on your current lover in case the goods are bad to put it lightly. Some people actually do this and keep their current mate close and their exes closer.
Secrets Are Best Kept by Your Ex
Your ex probably knows something that no one else would dare know about you personally. Your family might not know something about you that your ex knows, and that can be a scary situation. It would be best to stay on amicable terms with your ex when it comes to your secrets because they can have those secrets looming over your head.
You Still Have Feelings for Your Ex
Some people just cannot get off of that love rollercoaster. Just because your ex makes one mistake, that does not mean they cannot be forgiven. If you have strong feelings for your ex, you may not be able to be their lover again, but you may still be their friend.
Their Family Might Be Attached to You
Just because you break up with your former partner, this does not mean that your former partner’s family has broken up with you. A lot of surrogacy occurs with family members, and your ex’s family is no exception. Everything would go better when your ex is your friend and his/her family likes you.
When Your Ex Needed a Laugh, You Were There to Make Them Chuckle
Your ex enjoyed your sense of humor so much, they will cling on to those good times that made them laugh. There are things that your ex likes about you and things that they do not like about you. An ex will enjoy the things they like about you, even when you are not there, so be a pal to your ex and keep them laughing.
Don’t Get Caught Talking to Your Ex When You Are with Your Current Mate!
Have you ever known anyone that was with their current boyfriend or girlfriend out in public, and their ex showed up and started talking to them? Any amount of yelling or violence can occur in this situation. You should stay on good terms with your ex in this case in order to warn your current lover that this was the person that you use to be involved with.
Dump the Baggage from Your Last Relationship
Sometimes it is best not to carry what you have over to the next relationship. Being a friend to your ex could mean that the “bygones” are really “bygones.” By remaining friends with your ex lover, the healing process will be easier to sustain and the emotional baggage will be forgotten.
It Feels Great to Be a Pal to Your Ex
It is necessary to get that weight off of your chest when you go through a break-up. If your ex remains your enemy, you will probably be worried that they will retaliate in some shape or form. On the contrary, if your ex is amicable towards you, the anxiety you have will be pacified.
They Have Your Back No Matter What Happens
There is always support for your ex, even though you are not attached to them intimately like you once were. To have a friend, you definitely have to be a friend. There are many reasons why you may still have your ex’s back. It may really boil down to you having a remnant of feelings towards each other.
Who Can Forget the Memories You’ve Shared with Your Ex
“Memory, all alone in the moonlight I can dream of the old days…” Just had to get a little Barbara Streisand in for this one. Fast forwarding to our time, you will hold on to the memories that you shared together, no matter if you are with someone else or if you never date again. At least hold on to your ex for memory’s sake.
Knowledge Is Power When It Comes to Your Ex
Do you know how people are always looking for something in a person before they choose a mate? This may very well be true about your ex. Your ex might be very knowledgeable about many things. You may need your ex to help you out in a particular subject, whether it be a school subject or something you encounter in life.
My Friends May Be Your Friends
Your friends may be his/her friends, and vice versa. You may have formed a friendship with a person from her circle and that person may be the key to keeping the peace between you and your ex. You never want to look like the bad person in any situation like this.
Fight Until You Have Nothing Left
There are weird situations in which you and your ex were arguing and fighting constantly. All of the fighting catches up with you and your ex, and then a break-up ensues. All of a sudden, due to all of the fighting that you have done, the break-up makes everything better. You can now be friends outside of the relationship instead of the fighters that you were in the relationship.
You Will Understand Breaking up Is a Part of Life
You will learn that breaking up is just a part of life if you break up with your ex on amicable terms. If you break up again, you will not feel like the yoke is around your neck because of the break-up. You will fell like breaking up is a process more than just a ball of hatred and confusion.
We Are All Human and Not Villains
No one wants to be the bad guy. One of the first things that happens after a breakup is that most couples go to their friends and family and spill the beans about their former mate. You then become vilified in the eyes of a lot of people and thus you will get the evil eye when people come around you.
You May Want to Be a Pest on Purpose
There may be some feelings of revenge on the part of a person and so many people keep their exes as friends just for this purpose. One thing that may be bothering a person is the breakup, and to feel complete you may have a mind to break up your exes relationship by remaining their friend.
A Fresh New Start to Your New Relationship is What You Need
You definitely will not want to bring some bad karma to your next relationship when you break up with your ex. You will more than likely want to be friends with your ex so that you will not look like the bad guy when you start a fresh new relationship.
You Can Joke With Your Ex and Vice Versa
If you can joke with your ex and get along with them, that is a good thing. This is actually a form of therapy in which the wall of bitterness can be broken. You may want to keep it simple when it comes to joking around with your ex. You do not want to open old wounds while joking around.
Future Breakups Will Go More Smoothly When You Understand Your Ex
Practice makes you better at some point in time. Perfect practice makes perfect. When you break up on amicable terms, you learn to recover faster from that break up. If you keep breaking up with a mate, your breakups will be easier and easier to deal with. You will understand what is going on with not only your partner but yourself during these breakups.
You May Be Congenial by Nature
Being a friend to your ex just may be in your inherent nature. You may be the person who wishes your ex well when it is time to move on. This is a part of the transition process when it comes time for you to find another mate. This may seem weird, but there is nothing wrong with being friendly in a breakup.
Their Sibling Might Be a Friend of Yours
You may have an ex who has a brother or sister that you are still friends with. You may want to keep your ex as a friend because you will look like the villain when the breakup goes bad. A sibling could be the key in establishing the friendship after the breakup or even instrumental in getting you back together with your ex.
Beg Your Mate for Forgiveness for Another Chance at Love
You may have strong feelings towards your ex. Those feelings may be so powerful that you will want to have another chance at romance. You will want to stay on the friendly side if you choose to give your ex another try. This will make it easier on the both of you.
You Keep Your Ex Around to Laugh When They Get Dumped
This is just downright vindictive! Someone may want to keep their ex around and be friendly to their ex just to get back at their ex. They will pretend like they want their ex to do well. When times get tough for your ex, you will then all of a sudden turn on them and have the last laugh.
Watch Your Ex Grow Old and Gray
A person may want to be nosey and keep up with the activities of their ex lover just to watch them grow old or get fat. This is a negative thing to do since a person’s ex just wants to be a hindrance rather than a supportive person. Go figure.
A Mutual Decision Was Made Just to Break up with Your Ex
You may have just broken up with your ex on friendly terms. The relationship may have not worked out from the beginning and the relationship was not meant to be. You understand this and your partner understands this and so everything ends up copacetic between you and your ex.
The Sibling Looks Better Than the Ex
Some folks get with their ex and form a friendship just to have a chance to hook up with their brother or sister. There may be signs that your mate might be interested in your brother or sister more than you. This is an underhanded way to hook up with your exes sibling but it often works.
You May Have a Relationship with Your Exes Child
When you have an ex that has a child, you may bond with that child. When you leave from a relationship, You will have an impact on that child. The child will see you as a surrogate mother or father. A friendship, in this case, is a very positive thing because you have a bonding with someone other than your mate.
I Want My Money and I Want it Now!
You may remain friends with your ex-lover because they simply owe you money! You will have to play the role of the friend, although you have money dancing in your head that is owed to you by your ex. The friendship is sure to end when you get your money back.
Your Exes Parents Might Have a Relationship With You
As with any parent and child relationship, a bond like no other is formed. Your exes’ parents might really like you, and you may really like them. You will want to remain friends with your ex in this case so that your relationship with his or her parents can remain solid.
You Now Realize What You Had in the Relationship
Some people remain friends with their ex because they now realize that there was something special during the relationship. A person may feel comfortable after the fact as they view the relationship in hindsight. You may want to remain friends in this case because the connection has been established.
Your Ex Does Not Want to Let Go
Your mate may not want to let go of you. There are always left over feelings and memories that go along with being in a relationship, especially a long relationship. This may be a good and bad thing. It is a good thing because it shows that you care about your ex, and it may be bad because someone may become obsessive in a relationship like this.
You and Your Ex May Have Been Business Partners
You may have met your ex while you were working at a job. You may have even gone into business with your ex before you began a romantic relationship. When you break up, you may end up losing money if you are in a business partnership if you were in a relationship with your ex. You will want to remain friends in this case.
You May Be Down and Out and Out of Luck
You never know what type of circumstances you or even your ex may end up encountering. In everyone’s life, a little rain must fall. You or your ex may end up homeless and on the street, and the only person that you may have to turn to will probably be someone who knows you best.
You May Need a Job Reference/Network
Everyone needs a job. Since everyone needs a job, a person will also need a reference. Your ex may also be the person that you want to keep when you need to network. Your ex may have an established network that you may very well need when it comes time for a change of work.
Peer Pressure from Family/Friends May Compel You to Be Friends
You may encounter some peer pressure by your family or friends when you break up with your partner. Your friends or family may like the partner that you had so much, they may encourage you to at least remain friends with your ex. Your family or friends may even encourage you to try and get into a relationship again with your ex.